</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
StarPonysMama said:
We've both joined AA and are trying to clean things up for him while I hold onto my sobriety for dear life. (By the way - today is my 96th day of sobriety!!!! GO ME!)

I kinda went off on him.

I also told him the next time he lapsed (if ever) that would be it and I didn't care if I had to go to therapy to separate myself from him - I would go everyday if that is what it took. I told him I refuse to let myself spiral downwards, I've come this far and I'm happy with my life.

Sobriety brings clarity. At least I know it has for me.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">

Hi Star...and first things first...congratulations on your 96th consecutive miracle...for us every single spin of the Earth without a mind altering substance is simply a miracle....Millions upon millions are today without that Grace...

You kindof went off on him....maybe that opened his eyes and well maybe not...Like you I hope so, but my real concern is that your advice to him...about getting away from triggers is apt advice for you too...

You so wonderfully stated that you are holding your arms around your sobriety for dear life...And that is what its all about in my humble opinion....If so then your warning to him about any future relapses makes sense...

I hope for your sobriety that this boundary is firm because just like Walt,,,your boyfriend is as high a risk to your sobriety as Walt is to his...

People, places and things....change or die...

You have your clarity...I hope no emotional FOG enters that crisp picture...

I care...

Lenny