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Originally Posted by Psche
we both live at home, due to financial constraints.
We have always fought with one another throughout our lives.
Basically her schedule is work, work, work. I think this is to get away with from us as a family, as she stays out to 11pm and often works two shifts which is abnormal in my eyes.
I can definitely see her being in a relationship and not telling any of us. It has crossed my mind that she may be LGBT as she has never talked about liking any man and has said that she does not care for relationships. That may be true but this has crossed my mind, due to her secrecy and the fact that one of her friends is transgender.
It hurts me that I am her brother, but she wants nothing to do with me and seems to have this built up resentment towards me for no real reason.
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It sounds to me like you're making a lot of assumptions about her and discrediting her need for privacy. In fact, you're coming off judgmental in this post, IMO.
There's always a reason why we behave in certain ways. You're just not in the "know" about her reasons and likely because you've always had a turbulent relationship with her. I'm sure there are many reasons why she's resenting you and has taken you out of her life.. even temporarily. What role have you played in this?
Give her the space. You don't know what's going on. She may be working overtime to save up for a mortgage or a place of her own. Maybe she's in an unhealthy relationship. Maybe she's in a happy place and can't share that happiness with you because of your history. Don't guess. She's cut you out because of your behaviours or the unhealthy relationship you both have with each other.
LGBT or not, is irrelevant, unless she feels you will judge her. The fact that she has a transgender friend does not mean she's gay.
I bolded your post where I felt you were projecting your own negativity.