Thanks again for your knowledge !

Maybe i can add some details about my background and thoughts that came into mind after reading your replies.

I might have confused sex with emotions. I know that in nature the offspring normally doesn't mate with it's mother but incestuous mothers exist. And i guess i was afraid that my mother could be one, have at least a romantic desire towards me even without a history of sexual abuse. Thanks to your input i reconsidered this idea, and the way i see it now, it's that because of my sexual hypersensitivity, i see her emotional demands as signs of romantic/sexual interest.

She demands a lot of attention, and sometimes for weird things, like asking to watch her do yoga or zumba moves, watch her belly because she lost some pounds or lets me know whenever she gained some. Tells me that she loves wearing a sweater of mine or stares at me. Things that feel out of place.


Again, i think now that it's just attention seeking or normal mom stuff but has nothing to do with sex, this part being my problem.


As you mentioned is the case for some boys, i did constantly shy away from engaging in romance or sex with girls even though i liked them, and should another one show interest today i would be even more frigid and clueless on how to act. But prior to adolescence it was the opposite, girls were running away from an obsessive romantic endeavour i had going on.


I must also add that i'm in my late 20's now, and when i started chickening out from courtship i was around 16, wich is when girls started showing interest to me. I had a few relationships but they never lasted, the common thread being my trouble with intimatcy.


Anyways, it really helped to have some perspective on this thing with my mom and it was great to be able to talk to someone. I'm very gratefull