I think it's only the thought that she said she was ill which has held me back from doing this.The more I think about it however,the more I question whether she's just using illness as an excuse for appalling behaviour.(That's the word of another friend of mine for what she did).It's months ago now but the more I think about it,I wonder why she shouldn't be told.I would have to say to her that I did find her lies and utter lack of compassion to be an appalling way for one person to treat another.She has said she was "sorry",but not face to face,and I don't believe her words were sincere-why should she be,after all the lies she previously told.Also,her actions haven't been those of someone who is genuinely "sorry".From what I have seen,she views people only in terms of how useful they are to her at any one time-not with any genuine regard or feeling.That's how it looks.If I'm wrong then no doubt I'll see it in her future behaviour (but I doubt it).These are all the things I'd say to her if I was being truthful.Have I anything to lose? Most people seem to think this friendship (if it ever was one),is finished anyhow.