I thought my childhood wasn’t especially abnormal. It was when my marital problems forced me to take a look back that I saw it. Do they only consider the earliest years of childhood in determining attachment disorders?

If attachment is based on the first years of life, I was cared for. Ages 1-5, there’s nothing I remember (and I have some vivid memories from then), a few things were off... The big one was I wouldn’t eat, wasn’t thriving. It was never determined why by any doctor, just ‘she’ll eat when she’s ready’, which I did. I was on the scale of growth (10%?). Mother was very predictable throughout life, good /or banshee. Father was emotionally absent and then he died when I was 12. Sisters had no interest in me.