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You are going to have to set some boundaries no matter how uncomfortable that may be. A good start is saying no. Saying no can sometimes stop people in their tracks. One thing to remember is you do not need to explain why you are saying no. NO is a full sentence. Or if you feel you have to follow that then say "No, I am not comfortable with that". Its up to you if you want to lay out your boundaries ahead of time by having a conversation with her. Sometimes that can be helpful. If you do choose to do that it would be good to vocalize what you will and wont tolerate and include a consequence- like you will end calls if she hollers and cajoles. Or that you will limit your calls with her. But also do not ask for her help with little things. This can give her the message that you invite her demands as an exchange for helping her.
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