I understand what you mean about the game and turning the tables. If you have anything like that happening in the relationship, I can tell you, it’s never going to be good. I’m sorry to see you are still spinning your wheels with this man. The immaturity occurring in the late 40’s mind boggles me. I never dated past my mid 20’s, so IDK how older dating goes. I did have experiences back then that remind me of the games you are describing. The bottom line— disengage from players and don’t play the games. There are plenty of men who will treat a woman right. For your own sanity, leave him alone.