thank you all for advices and the link, I will read it. It does sound like she wants to be a martyr for whatever price. When I didn't want to talk to her, because she was like that, she called literally everyone I know and told them how "unreasonable" am I and that they all need to "talk some sense into me and make me do what she wants". I was so angry I was shaking and I even felt some tightening in my chest. And it gets worse. She convinced our dad, who had a cold, that he has covid (although tests were later proven negative), even when he was just sniffling, coughing a bit and didn't have fever or anything. Mom and me caught the same bug, it's cold. He was fine, laughing, eating, normal, but no... she had to intervene. He had very bad covid case in her mind. She managed to get him some antibiotics "just in case". Those pills ruined his stomach, he is constantly in pain and nausea, and he didn't even need it. Now he is just sleeping whole day, doesn't eat, and says he feels nauseous and his stomach hurts. That is lasting for almost a week. Before that he was fine! Mom and me have a freaking cold! Mom for some time looks like she has some kind of dementia, now there is no one to take care of her. Also, their outside cats were starving. I had to go there to bring food and feed cats. I am so tired. I don't really know this is all her fault but I can't help but to blame her. Why did she meddle into that? She was screaming at me, as always "he is dying, YOU HAVE TO go there and be with them (our parents) , I can't do it all". I was like "I have a job, I have a child, I can't just move there, dad was fine, what happened". then she called everyone else to tell them I am unreasonable and dad will die, and mom needs care and I need to be there every day. I am so tired. So, so tired. We had one parent with disability, now we have two. And he needs a doctor, really needs it! This is insane! I don't think she even realizes how wrong she is. She claims now he has pneumonia. Tells it to everyone. Of course, I need to go there and take care. I had healthy happy dad just a week ago, what happened? MOm and me have the same disease, as we got it from him, it's freaking cold!!! I am not really in panic I will lose both parents before next year. I think she still believes she is helping, but now dad just sleeps and doesn't eat at all. It looks bad. I am scared this will end really badly. Like living in a nightmare. We just needed all to go to doctor. Can side effects from antibiotic kill older person?