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Nov 17, 2020, 10:21 PM
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Hi Lostgir1. Welcome to Psych Central. I am sorry you are in a contentious relationship with giant red flags that something is wrong. Have you considered getting professional help to help you cope with this situation and guide you what to do?
I cannot give advice. It is up to you what to do. If you ask me what I would do, I would say:
"Stop trying to have a baby." If you continue having intimacy, contraception may be an option to consider. If you have a baby and the relationship becomes impossible, you are faced with very difficult options.
One thing I learned, after 30 years, was I can NOT change a person that is stuck in a certain way of thinking. I heard this phrase to describe people who will not change "Do not confuse me with the facts, my mind is already made up."
I feel your stress and frustration. I think a professional may help. If the relationship falls apart then not having a baby will mean the separation will not be complicated by children. One person I know had triplets. Having children makes a bad relationship worse in my experience with other people.
These articles may be of interest
8 Early Warning Signs a Relationship Will Fail
Dealing with a Failed or Failing Relationship-The 6 Abilities You Need Right Now
Why Romantic Relationships Fail - reason #1
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