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sarahsweets · Nov 18, 2020, 04:03 AM

Hey @WovenGalaxy:
I think you should look at what you expect and want from this. They are not in your life anymore so expecting them to change or seeing if they changed is kinda irrelevant. If you expect an apology, what would that do for you? Counselor or not I doubt this person is going to remember and if they do, I doubt they are going to apologize in a sincere way to you. it sounds like you want them to feel bad. They didnt feel bad then, and their perspective might have minimized what happened in their mind and they might not understand or care how it affected you. They might not even remember. Imagine if you did say something and they told you they didnt remember? It would probably hurt you. I think trying to make the past better by expecting an old bully to care has the potential to backfire. Do you think you are wanting to do this because they are a counselor and you think they shouldnt be? If that is the case then be careful you sorted out you motivations for contacting this person. Ultimately I feel like you need to protect yourself and I do not feel contacting them will do that/