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Old Nov 18, 2020, 10:21 AM
BarefootBeach BarefootBeach is offline
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Originally Posted by Tangerine87 View Post
Lately, my T has been yawning and seeming to nod off during our sessions. Is that all normal? It’s happened several times and I feel like he is less engaged. Is this normal with tele therapy or am I just hyper aware of what’s going on because his face is so close, which I wouldn’t normally see? What does it mean when your t is frequently feeling sleepy? Am I wrong to feel upset? a part of me feels like I am being unreasonable. It fees like he’s given up on me.
No, it is not normal and you being upset is completely appropriate. You are not being unreasonable, at all. His tiredness could mean many things; bored, tired, disinterested, etc.The fact that this is happening frequently is serious. You seeing his face now and not prior could be a learning experience for you. My ex-therapist often times could barely keeps his eyes open during the last few years with him. At first I thought maybe something was wrong with his eyes, as they kept closing....'stupid' me, making excuses for this idiot. Once, I said "you seem tired." He said he was sleepy, not tired....ummm, what's the difference! One session, within 5 minutes, he was falling asleep. I stopped and shut down; he had zero clue why I clammed up. After I left, I called him out. He completely twisted the facts, blaming me for not being more forth-coming with my concerns, even though I tried to address this in session.In hindsight it is amazing to listen to what he said to me on the recording; completely blame shifting this to me as if it were my responsibility to right the ship and he was falling asleep, manipulating me, as usual. He was not paying me $200 per hour, I WAS! I always felt sorry for the next three clients he would see before he went home. I do hope things improve. Sorry for the long comment. This makes me angry.