I know what you mean Tisha. Often that's the answer people use when they experience problems. Even a narcissist will use it as a way to blame others to avoid being responsible for their own part in whatever did not go well for them.

What I liked about the video I watched was how the man explained the bell curve and average being on top and then traveling down each side of the bell explaining degrees of narcissism and degrees of empaths and why they often end up together in relationships. I thought I gave a link but the link just brought me to many videos on the topic. I could not find this one mans video that I found so helpful. I looked for it several times too. I guess there are just so many youtube video talks on the subject that his got lost. If I find it I will post it.

Just checked again and I found it. It was interesting and I found it helpful.