Hello marryme: I see this is your first post here on PC. Welcome to Psych Central. The Relationships and Communication forum, here on PC, may also be of interest to you. Here's a link:

https://psychcentralforums.com/relat...communication/

And then here are links to 4 articles, from Psych Central's archives, that (hopefully) may help to provide some insight into what you are experiencing with your ADHD love interest:

Relationships & ADHD: Obstacles and Solutions

Married To ADD: 7 Difficulties To Expect [EXPERT]

ADHD's Impact on Relationships: 10 Tips to Help

Two Rules For Being Married To An ADHDer

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.