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Originally Posted by guy1111
Ok, I guess it is a different relationship then. More like a teacher, but with no principal to send him to when he disrupts the class. I volunteer for Sunday school and there are certain kids that aren't getting the discipline at home to behave in the program. We usually end up giving them alternative tasks to the singing and crafts, etc. since they won't follow along.
I guess it takes some pressure off me to try and be this super dad to him.
Thanks
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I don’t think it’s like a teacher. I care for my students dearly but the way I feel for my step kids is different. Yet I am not their parent. My parents are devoted grandparents but they never acted as “super parents” or disciplined their grandkids. They aren’t their parents
My grandma had an expression, in translation it sounds harsh “all problems come from people not knowing their place”, it really means people not understanding boundaries. In that particular circumstances it was about someone’s meddling mother. But it applies to other situations. I shared that phrase with a therapist I saw few years back and she agreed, it’s often a big issue.
I am not saying you are doing things wrong. You are caring person and you do things in the kind and logical way. And you likely are doing things right. But in reality if you try to play “super dad” while you aren’t his dad, you might run into all kind of issues. That’s just the reality of it. I am just being realistic