Thanks for this idea Ms. Lady. I suggested this idea to my husband and he did not present it to my mother in law. He just flat out told me that his mother is not coming to our house, period. He said he can't tell his brother who to have or not to have over at his house. I personally think my husband is being a coward and just because he is afraid to suggest an alternate plan to his own brother, his mother may suffer greatly as a result. It's a truly sad situation. I'd have no problem what so ever telling one of my siblings that a plan should be changed if our mother's health was at risk. This is where my husband and I differ. I'd love to pick up the phone and tell my brother in law our idea of switching the holiday, but my husband won't let me. I think it's cause he knows that I won't take any ***** from his brother and i'd end up telling his brother off.