I am so sorry. It’s just so painful

Some people forgive affairs. Nothing wrong with that if that’s what they want. Some people stay together, again nothing wrong with that but unfortunately many who do stay continue life of misery and pain with their spouses. So I think if people stay and work on it and lead a happy life, then it’s not a bad choice. But if they stay and live in misery, then I don’t see the point. Much healthier and happier to be alone or potentially meeting a better partner.

So if you are committed on staying then ask yourself if you are capable of living happy life with this person or you are signing up for life of misery just because you feel you must forgive or can’t manage your life on your own. In addition you have 7 kids. Can’t be easy

Are you seeing a therapist?