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Originally Posted by puzzclar
I wanted to place blame on others, and not take responsibility for my actions. And it's taken years to accept that responsibility.
I took a questionnaire on what type of person I am. nd I found out I'm a obliger. Which means I do things for others more than myself, which just makes me mad! And gives insight into the mental difficulties that I experience. I'm unhappy partly because I've done things more for others than myself.
If only I had a direction to go!?
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Puzzclar,
What you have said above shows you have made a lot of progress. I am a people pleaser too but have learned to set better boundaries. IMO it is good to do things for others but we just have to make sure it comes from a place where we value ourselves enough to take time to take care of ourselves a priority. I have always read daily and have found that books and articles on the internet are helpful. So are many YouTube videos out there. Be patient with yourself and you will find more answers. Look at how far you have come already.