Yes. Very true. I have been open and honest with L about EVERYTHING but ex-T. It's not that I've been dishonest about her, it's that I don't bring her up. But you're right. L knows my secret, my intimate history, my feelings for her, etc. And she already knows the worst I did with ex-T: yell at her and slam the door. I guess I'm scared that if I let ex-T "out of the box" she'll ruin the relationship I have with L somehow.