Actually @WovenGalaxy I was responding to you but it took a while because I kept being interupted while responding. I am glad you realize my intent was to help you and that I am not really at my best right now. It's ok that you needed me to clarify and even mentioned how what I said affected you so I could help clarify. I do try but I don't always nail it and often that is due to where I am at myself and I went through this awful rollercoaster this past week of too many BIG things happening all at once. And to be honest with you, even though I was genuinely struggling, I had to switch gears and deal with an angry husband who was pretty much all about himself and HIS impatience that he tends to take out on me. Yet, he was also taking that out on the staff too and a part of me wonders if they sent him home because he isn't a very good patient and they actually had to lock him in his room. When I say "bad adhd" I aint kidding, he is MISERABLE if he can't be in motion, even in his sleep which is why I had to finally have him sleep in a different bed than me. His energy can get overwhelming and exhausting. He fills up space in so many ways and I was simply not ready for that big energy to happen yet. And it's worse when he gets angry. Yup, that's the severity of his ADHD. He HATES being imobalized hense they had to lock him in his room at the hospital.