I am a parent and a teacher. It is important to teach our children how to act and treat each other but the guidance is the most effective when they feel loved. Positive reinforcement always works better than negative reinforcement. When a parent is always punishing rather than leading by encouragement and being a good example; eventually, the child will act out or be severely internally effected--sometimes in ways we can't even imagine. Of course, the child's temperament effects their reaction as well but it is essential that a child have people in their life that love them. I am sorry you did not feel loved by your father. Were there other adults that loved you when you were a child?