ltlredvett:

my fiancee' hasn't been married now for a few years. His second marriage consisted of a woman he met, and then later married 4 months later. Their marriage lasted I think for 3 years....that long only because Joe clings to every thread of hope since he has had a miserable life. Depression has been affecting him as well, and I didn't realize how much just until recently. He had become so distant, he hardly ever touched me anymore, hugged me....we hadn't been getting along. I had pleaded with him to please just tell me what was wrong. He told me he didn't know why he was acting that way....and finally one day I just told him the only logical reason for him to be treating me the way he was, was that there was someone else involved.....which mind you, I believe Joe to be one of the most loyal men on the planet....but I didn't know what else to think. He finally came out and just told me he was depressed. The holidays would be upon us soon, and for certain reasons, involving family members, those times of the year make him deeply upset. I feel so badly for him. He is a very strong man, his love runs deep, and unconditional, but I just don't know how I can help him. He takes anti-depressants, but only one, once a day, or actually once a night before he sleeps....he's high strung and constantly worrying. I feel awful right now, not having a job, and with the way things are going between us, I just wish I could make it all better for him. There are just too many issues.