Yes, I read the other posts, too. I would trust my instincts if I were you. When a man acts as he does it makes us feel crazy when they deny it over and over or tell lies about it. When love is good it feels good and when it feels bad I wonder how committed one is not being toward the one who is committed.
I've had several men like he is and to me they seem to be so charming and they charm the pants off of all the women they see, it seems. Or at least a few I knew did. They needed to change their ways but were not interested in doing so for me even. I got out of it and it hurt so very bad. It was degrading, humiliating, hurtful and so disrespectful to me.

I loved one so bad that the only way I got out of the relationship was by joining a group at Al Anon. But then even I felt weak and when I learned he found someone else right away I almost died emotionally. Then I found out he was with her all the time we were together and that was over 3 years. What finally happened after we had trists from time to time and I felt totally like s h .. he had a heart attack and died! I am still traumatized by that relationship. He was not willing to get any help like I insisted he do. He wanted to remain as he was and saw himself as a player, I guess. He was proud of it. I now want to find a man who shows all the signs of being truthful, honest and devoted to me. I deserve that and not being run over with a mack truck like he did to me. I stopped it from happening but it was hard and his dying really put an end to it. Yes, I grieved. It was so sad but now I know the signs and I trust my instincts. I run when a man is a player now. I want someone ready to commit to me faithfully. What do you think now?

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