She doesn't just share some things here and there but often gives references to herself and her family. I of course understand it can be bothersome for her to live far from her family but that's no excuse to be unfocused when she sees her clients. Also, whatever reason, I shouldn't have to be forgiving every time as I'm there for a reason, not just to accompany her.
It's not just the fact that she might move, it's more about her focusing and mentioning a lot about her "second" home where her husband and family lives. I don't care that much if it's seen as blurring boundaries or not but it's hurtful that she doesn't think more about my time and why I'm there.
It's like I lived in a similar way as her, with a family, money and so on and she more or less overlook my problems. She has too much to deal with in her own private situation and that's why I think our sessions become like this.
I know too much about being suddenly terminated and that's why I just go along with this and I don't bring it up to her.
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Originally Posted by divine1966
You could quit. But didn’t you say you must see her so you get your financial allowance due to inability to work? So you really can’t quit. So when you ask if you should quit, the answer is you probably shouldn’t. Not sure what you mean if you should if you know you can’t.
Now I’d say it’s normal to want your spouses to live with you and not 300km away so it’s understandable she finds this arrangement bothersome. Should she share it with you? Probably not. But I thought you didn’t want blank state therapists but wantEd them to share. Maybe I am wrong and you want them not to share. So I am not sure.
Well she might move or she might not. There is no way to know. Unless she is separated from her husband as they aren’t a couple anymore she likely eventually will move. But we can’t really know what might happen. You could ask if she intends to move. That’s appropriate question
Also I have to add that you said it “seems” she is unhappy or doesn’t like her job. Not that she is. I commute to work, far. An hour one way. I hate it. I complain about it. But it doesn’t mean I hate my job (I love my job) or that I am about to move or change jobs. So how much of what you think is happening is an assumption (we all do that) and how much is the reality?
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