It is sort of an inbred community. My boss still works where I do but I asked to be removed from any further involvement with him and my other boss agreed. (thought that manager has left). After moving on to my new boss I had agreed to continue doing a small job that would only keep me in touch with this old boss on limited occasions (maybe once per year) But one day he called me up and continued to try to blame me for something over and over again. I proved to him I hadn't been the problem and it didn't matter, he just kept saying I was the problem. I spent 2 days defending myself and truth didn't matter. I walked into my boss and literally said "I want a divorce"... and they granted me one.

I am astounded. The person who had my job before me, and LEFT, opening the position for me, and told me the many times he was abusive to her.. e-mailed me yesterday and asked if I was going to the funeral. I suppose I can see it in her case... after she left she came back and he did help her get the job.

But not mine.

I didn't respond.

I don't understand people..

I know the general feeling is that I am being childish or petty to hold these feelings. I have a friend who face the same situation and she is always chiding me that I shouldn't say things like "good" when I hear his wife is sick. Why shouldn't I have these feelings? But everyone acts like I was treated well.