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Originally Posted by comrademoomoo
I think that the "jarring" is the effect that his room changing has on you, but I get the impression that the cause of your discomfort is deeper rooter. You seem to be making a link between his environment and a possible or apparent invitation into other parts of his life. You catch a glimpse of something; you want to ask more; there is something new to distract you; some new information is more personal than before. These could all be descriptions of your reactions to seeing his environment or descriptions of your reactions to his disclosures or interpersonal responses to you. Perhaps it is both delicious and jarring to be partially invited in.
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You make a really interesting point here. It is both jarring and intriguing (or "delicious," as you would say). Part of me *does* want to know more, to see more (which is something that he's aware of--he's said it's like I'm trying to get all the pieces of the puzzle to figure him out). And I'm concerned if I mention the painting or pictures (which may just be, say, art photos in a picture frame, too far away to really see), then next time he'll have removed them from the wall or be at a different angle. And I worry that will trigger rejection feelings.
When he started disclosing more since the pandemic, part of me wanted to talk to him about it, but then part of me was afraid if I talked about it, he would stop. I did eventually talk to him about it, and he has dialed it back some. Well, he was still very open about his political opinions, which agree with mine (he knows that), though he did make a few comments that were a bit...extreme? Ones that I wouldn't share on here. (I can PM you if you want to know!)