Whoa. That must have felt pretty bad. I’m so sorry.

Humour me here, but let‘s try to imagine a best-case T-speak intervention for that situation:

“Client, I am noticing that lately it seems to me that we’ve gotten into a pattern of more informal-type chat and further from a therapeutic style of interacting. Is that an observation that you share? What do you think about that? […] As much as I enjoy chatting with you, and recognize the value of having some lighter sessions, I’d like to be more conscious of the fact that this is your therapy time.”

To me, it seems reasonable that a good T could get a bit derailed from time to time. Crying to YOU that THEY aren’t being professional? I’m not sure if the relationship can come back from that. Or if you want it to. As excruciatingly sad as it would be to let go of someone you care for so much, this relationship may have run its course.