Dear Lanahope,

That sounds like a really heartbreaking situation. I've never been in the type of situation you describe, at least in all the specifics, so I am really unqualified to offer advice. Usually I regret offering advice in any case. You are carrying some heavy burdens and I wish I knew what to say to help ease your load. Hopefully others here will see your post and respond with better words than my poor words. I have been in situations where I felt trapped and it is so distressing and stressful. My heart goes out to you.

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen