I suspect the information here is quite slanted. I can honestly say my T encouragea me to tell her when she screws up. We discuss it and work through it. It has never gotten to the point of a big rupture because we work through it. One of the things I know is her intentions are never to hurt me. She apologizes profusely.

this week I brought something she says that bothers me. While I told her before, she never undertook it. This is a something that is always said and normal it just bothers me. I could tell that it bothered her initially. We discussed it I explained why it bothers me. She apologized and told me to please call her out if she uses the term and she is going to make a huge effort not to.