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Old Nov 26, 2020, 08:39 PM
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I agree on the information being slanted on this forum. I've had a couple major ruptures with my therapist. After one of them, I left for a bit, but that was my choice. He was still willing to continue working with me (and explicitly told me that). I went back a few weeks later after trying a different T. He's said before that he's only once terminated a client, and that was a case when they physically threatened him, and he had to call the police. And that he also feels that working through ruptures makes the relationship stronger.

With ex-marriage counselor, the last major rupture we had, he tightened some boundaries, but did not say I/we had to stop seeing him. I found that, even after trying to work through it, I could no longer fully trust him and ultimately chose to leave.

But in neither of those cases was I forced to leave. I have read about numerous cases on here where a therapist terminated due to a rupture, the client admitting transference, the client crossing a boundary of the therapist's, etc. And those have really concerned and scared me. I really hope that those are the rare exceptions. As I feel a therapist should be willing to try to work through any sort of rupture, transference, etc. short of something like a threat (or actual assault) to themselves or their loved ones. At the very least (again, barring threat of physical danger), they should give the client a few sessions to work through what happened and, ideally, let them keep seeing them until they can find a new therapist. Not just say "OK, you can never come back or communicate with me again."
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