On mums side it’s German, so stiff upper lip and lockstep. Emotions are denied. But mums younger sister had problems and was on psychological meds and died young, in her 60’s I think. I’ve a couple cousins on that side that have bipolar and my daughter too. One of my cousins daughter is an out and out drug user and everyone suspects she bipolar but she’s never been sober long enough to be diagnosed.

On dads side, neurosis, and anxiety abounds. But nobody dares speak of this. My grandfather was in the state hospital for years, I remember visiting him there. then when hadal came along he was let out to a nursing home but all this was blamed on a fall. Mum claims he was an alcoholic but anybody who drinks more than one glass of wine is in her book an alcoholic, so?

So who knows.