Hi again,

Thanks for your replies; it's nice to feel appreciated for something. One of the changes I want to make I think is to reply more promptly as procrastination has been a problem for a while, here goes.

Silver, Fayerody, and others, you have suggested that I could go to another forum for topics banned here, although I appreciate the suggestion and links you have provided I think you may be missing my point on the subject. I need to learn the skills of conflict resolution in a setting designed to teach just that, to me this would be support. Just as one would not want to join a street fight or bar brawl to learn self-defense, an open political forum or whatever wouldn't to my knowledge be dedicated to helping people learn people skills, one would want a more controlled environment to become accustomed to and learn the needed skills for effectively resolving conflict. Eliminating and avoiding conflict is not a long-term solution or the kind of support I need and believe others here do too whether they know it or not. It seems to me that we humans are rather like Star Trek's pre-rational Vulcans whose individuals and sects were so inflamed by passions and superstitions that they were constantly at war and in real danger of eliminating themselves. Many of us are here as a result of being abused by one form or another of failed and failing conflict resolution methods. Agreeing to disagree for instance doesn't really work; it just postpones conflict, while the delay often makes the situation worse. A place to learn and develop new and better one's though perhaps challenging seems not only essential for us, as we are some of the most vulnerable in society, but also the world.

I also need to learn so much more. I find myself having to relearn how to live, work, study, set goals in a world that seems hostile to my goals, almost every life activity, as my old methods haven't worked well enough to allow me a satisfying life.

Anyway I think I'm going to try to post a little more, risking whatever, and chat a little less to see if that works any better for me. I wish it wasn't so much more difficult for me this way but it maybe something I need to learn to do.

Hope you're well and/or getting better and wiser.~Down