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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
Well there is likely little you can do about his lacks. Instead it’s better to figure out what about him that leads to your feeling low after you have a conversation with him.
It sounds like you are figuring it out by what you just shared. He probably thinks you enjoy listening to all the things he knows. Usually people prefer hearing what’s important to them and once they find someone who will listen they can go on and on.
Maybe he reminds you of another person that interacted with you that way and you actually get tired when you talk to him and that’s what makes you feel bad about yourself.
He is probably more of a black and white thinker?
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I think I just felt stupid. Literally. Like I could not keep up with all the "information and knowledge and facts" he was talking about. Being intelligent myself is actually really important to me.
Yeah I know I can't make him change. I'd like to redirect the conversation. And he did ask about me when once again I said "I'm not following" and I asked him something like "how's the rest of your life going?" But by that time I felt...inhibited about talking about myself.
I know it was just one conversation. Sometimes we have really good ones. Other times....
When we were super close, I once told him I didn't care about the info he was sharing with me, but it upset him and he made a passive aggressive remark about ppl who like to learn.