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Nov 28, 2020, 09:16 PM
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Originally Posted by WovenGalaxy
I think I just felt stupid. Literally. Like I could not keep up with all the "information and knowledge and facts" he was talking about. Being intelligent myself is actually really important to me.
Yeah I know I can't make him change. I'd like to redirect the conversation. And he did ask about me when once again I said "I'm not following" and I asked him something like "how's the rest of your life going?" But by that time I felt...inhibited about talking about myself.
I know it was just one conversation. Sometimes we have really good ones. Other times....
When we were super close, I once told him I didn't care about the info he was sharing with me, but it upset him and he made a passive aggressive remark about ppl who like to learn.
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If he makes a passive aggressive comment I would suggest calling him out on it. You don't have to be mean, but you can say something like, "I'm not sure if you're trying to put me down, but we are friends, and we both should be enjoying this conversation. If this is a mutual relationship, then if I tell you something isn't something I want to discuss, it would be nice if you and I could find something we both enjoy to talk about."
Sometimes people have bad relationship habits but it doesn't mean you can't work on it. Friendships are a great way to work on communication and assertive skills. 
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Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder
Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia.
Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien
Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less...
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