Do you mind sharing a little more about what you mean by 'screw-up'. If you'd rather not, I completely understand. I certainly don't want you to do anything that might trigger you even more. I guess what I'm thinking, if I knew more, maybe I could offer my opinion FWIW on confronting him with the issue. Did you say this was Dec 04? You can always PM me if you'd rather do it in private, provided that you feel comfortable sharing at all. Please, feel absolutely no obligation in doing so. I want you to feel safe and untriggered. Looking for a new job is probably a very good idea for you. {{{{{{TraumaMama}}}}}}}}