Thinking about it, I'm not going to do anything about this right away. I'm also not going to talk to him unless he calls me, which is doubtful.

I'm not going to address it with him and instead just give this space and time, because 1. I'm not ready. I need to be ready to do that 2. He himself is very unhealthy. He has always had trouble telling people when he's upset with them and meeting conflict head on. Even with his own family. He just stews about it to others (like me). 3. And he gets offended. If I tell him, there's a chance he will later come back and say "I feel like I've had to be very careful what I say to you." Which is what he has done before and it really hurt. I used to sometimes "check things out" with him, like my own misinterpretations. Apparently he could not handle it, which I found out later with his comments, and it hurt. 4. He is passive aggressive. I do think its a good idea to call him out in the moment though. 5. He's not my best friend. We were very close at one point, last year and much earlier this year, but in the end I just felt so irritated by him. I don't remember why - some if it was this stuff though.

I do think its a very good idea to communicate with my friends. But there's a lot here and I don't want to seem to him like I'm attacking him. It IS a good idea to practice this stuff. I just want to feel ready and able. Will give this time and space atm.