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But ....... why? What good does that do? it doesn't heal the wounds. And now I'm all stressed out and afraid because I feel like I'm going to have to argue with my therapist, and that's going to annoy him bc therapists always seem like they think that they KNOW and don't really want to hear what I think about it.
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You are putting your therapist into the authority role. Someone that has the power to judge you and tell you not to feel. People who struggle with complex ptsd often had a narcissistic parent where they were not allowed to have their own feelngs. This typically begins when a child experiences normal temper tantrums when they get frustrated about their limitations. They are often scolded and punished instead of having a presence that allows them to experience frustrations that are NORMAL to development. So, the child learns they are not allowed to feel anger and instead they end up crying.
A GOOD therapist will know this about patients and will want to help that patient finally address what could be YEARS of frustrations and pent up anger.