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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
You are putting your therapist into the authority role. Someone that has the power to judge you and tell you not to feel. People who struggle with complex ptsd often had a narcissistic parent where they were not allowed to have their own feelngs. This typically begins when a child experiences normal temper tantrums when they get frustrated about their limitations. They are often scolded and punished instead of having a presence that allows them to experience frustrations that are NORMAL to development. So, the child learns they are not allowed to feel anger and instead they end up crying.
A GOOD therapist will know this about patients and will want to help that patient finally address what could be YEARS of frustrations and pent up anger.
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Argh now I'm worried I messed up my kids! When they were feeling frustrated, I tried to help them find words to express whatever was wrong & explained stuff they couldn't have or helped them reach the shelf they were reaching for, or whatever. Was I messing them up by not letting them feel that frustration!?!?!?
Setting that worry aside, yes, I was not allowed to feel anything negative toward my parents or authority figures, or really, anyone. My T mentioned that I need to get in touch with my aggression, since I can't feel it at all. *sigh* Sometimes I feel like a layer cake. Issues upon issues upon issues.
