OK, not laughing at you but oh... so much!
I know T has been in therapy several times and I know what at least two major themes were. I know we share some challenges but just enough to be able to really relate... they were not exactly the same. I know a lot about his wife, his kids and her kids... I know his birthday and his anniversary... I know some of his and his wife’s medical struggles. I know the things that bring him great joy in his family life and at least one that brings him pain. I know his hobbies. I don’t know his address but I know what his house looks like inside and out and what city it is in.
He shares a lot with me because I feel safer working with a person than a blank slate. He has shared maybe 40% of what I know, said it was OK for me to access a public space that gives me another 50% of what I know... and then there is google. Of the 40% he has shared 90% has had a direct, significant,mpositive impact on our work. The other 10% he just misread a situation and shared in the hopes it would help me open up/feel safe but I was off in a totally different direction.

I also have attachment issues. I was and continue to be very isolated so often I don’t know “normal” things... like when he showed me a picture of him holding his granddaughter as a baby. I honestly had no clue men held babies.