Thank you everyone for your support!
My husband and I lived in NY for our whole lives and relocated to FL a few years ago and bought our own house. Over the years we had extreme financial difficulties so when both his parents retired, they moved in with us while they searched for their own place. They offered to help us pay for bills while we get back on our feet. But, COVID hit which made things even more difficult and my husband started his own business which he needed his dad here to help with (building, etc.)

His parents did find their own place but its 6 hours from us so when they visit they want to stay a while to get the most out of it. They do so much to help us when they are here, which I am not complaining about, but sometimes I feel like it is too much. I feel like I have not set a good routine and structure with trying to handle my life with grad school and the baby. I have mentioned a few times that I get distracted when a lot of people are here and am unproductive which causes anxiety like I cannot think straight. His parents understood completely and say the same thing for themselves. I thought after that conversation they would have understood. I then said once that my depression makes me want a lot of alone time and space is necessary to get my life together and refocus myself. His parents understood that too, but are always here still. I feel terrible because sometimes they can be very nice, but other times they complain and it is just way too much and then they turn back on us like we are terrible to live with and they want to go back to their own place. It is just exhausting.

I have talked about intimacy with them and said before you all moved in, my husband and I had intimate time freely in the house and now we obviously can't do the same things anymore with people around. I was even specific and said we lazed around played video games in the living room and got intimate (I of course said this very tactfully and in not so many terms with the in-laws) but that came to a halt in which my MIL replied that we are young (30s) and still need that time together. So I am perplexed as to why they stay. My husband is all on my side too and has always come to my defense but it is a sensitive situation because they are our only family down here and it is their only grandson they want to see. So I feel like I am in a constant predicament.