Guess, a father or a mother always tells the “golden guy” how good is his demeanour because he’s behaving exactly how (s)he wants. (S)he manipulates the guy exactly to behaves exactly how (s)he wants to. The guy does what every kid does, does whatever (s)he needs to do to survive and be loved.
(S)he behaves exactly as their parents expects. There’s no kid’s identity. The parents beat. (S)he will be what his /her parents expect from him/her if not, they are gonna make him/her know what the path is.

It’s a pity, I repeat that adults feel owners of kids. Those adults who feel themselves owners of kinds are very wrong.