Yes, typically it's someone who never developed an identity of their own. So under this mask is often a frightened child or an angry child that felt they were in the shadows and could not seem to shine on their own. Anger is the worst too, "I am this, I am that and I deserve this and that!!!". And god forbid anyone prevent that because they will face a horrible wrath and will be deemed a terrible person.
The mask is the disorder and the only way to fix it is to try and change the mask and be someone new. This is why someone tends to be relieved once their mask stops working and they get out of a job or a relationship.
The problem is that even when the mask is changed a bit, the individual tends to use the same routine that ends up putting them in that bad place again. And typically the individual convinces themselves it's everyone else's fault because that way they can just affix a new mask and never actually have to change that part of them that is constantly "missing".
Often when this kind of individual gets real angry, they don't care about boundaries, not in anyone else, they just LET THE ANGER RIP AND RAGE. This is often what is called a "narcissistic rage".
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