Thank you @KBMK@Open Eyes @sarahsweets, Unaluna (who I know to not tag) and everyone who has offered support as I have been trying to navigate this. I appreciate the responses here and in PMs. I'm feeling really drained on this because I want to help my nephew, but my brother's behavior, which is the same old crap I went no contact for 10 years ago, just opens those old wounds, brings up the flashbacks and panic attacks, but at least now I'm in a place where I don't have to accept his BS, and I can see it for what it is. I'm not sitting here worried how I'll get in trouble with my family or this person or that person will cut me off. It makes me sad because I would like to have a relationship with my brother, a healthy relationship, but I can't do that on my own. It can't be a one-sided relationship where he gets all the support, and I am just a dumping ground. Maybe one day he'll take some responsibility for his behavior, but I'm not holding my breath.