My husband and I have been separated for a few weeks now and with no reconciliation in sight, I have accepted that our marriage is over. As I think about how to move on, I can’t stop thinking about how this heartbreak will influence future relationships, and what I can do now to not carry the baggage of this relationship into future ones. My husband hurt me deeply by breaking my trust and ultimately causing me to doubt myself. He lied to me so often that I no longer know what part of our relationship was real or not. For anyone who may have experienced something similar, how do work towards making sure that you don’t put up a wall? Of course I never want to be in this situation again and want to guard my heart, but how can I do that without punishing someone in the future who was not the cause of my pain? Maybe I’m just not being patient enough with myself, what do you think? (Side note: I am not looking to jump into any new relationships at the moment, just thinking deeply about the healing process.)