Current T tends to say that, whereas former T rarely did. I think with current T, it's her way of expressing sympathy. Not a very convincing way, to my way of thinking. When former T said it, it meant something. But I think it was objectively true, even though it didn't really feel so to me at the time. I think a consequence of dealing with a lifetime of heightened stress, especially as a child, probably predisposed me to discount anything short of life-threatening as no big deal.