I think it’s fine to return the r.s.v.p. Saying you can’t attend because you won’t be around and wishing them all the best. You don’t even have to send any gift.

Yes, for our wedding we invited a few more people and figured we’d get a fair amount of ‘no’s”. If it’s a wedding at a place with a contract you have to pay a minimum amount no matter how many people come. It’s stressful. At another event we made, we had several people say they were coming and then just not show up. Grrrrr, it cost us a lot of money. Oh well.

My cousin was also a bridesmaid so many times she had a closet full of ugly gowns lol. There’s a movie I think called 27 Dresses! I feel you for going to so many weddings.