I would like to say something about the word "fat". I am fat, fatter than some and not as fat as others. I would really like women to feel centred enough that we can use the word "fat" to describe ourselves, and other women, in the same way as we might use the adjective "tall", "European", "curly haired" etc. "Fat" is a neutral descriptor, it should not have value judgements attached to it and it should not be weaponised against women.

So ArtieTheSequal, you might be fat, I don't know. However, I know that you aren't ugly or undeserving. I also know that your partner sounds like a knob when he speaks like that.