I’m so glad to find someone like you who might have handled this the same way I would have. I’ve congratulated him though text already but he was a best friend for awhile, and he would appreciate that rsvp from me, whether it’s an accept or decline. I definitely think talking to you has helped take a lot of pressure off this gift giving stress I’ve been under. I’ve grown weary of gift giving to a lot of these couples now who refuse to acknowledge or thank me for a gift that I’ve given. Call me old fashioned or entitled but I hate the feeling that even when I’ve given extravagant gifts with thoughtful messages that I’m performing a rather thankless obligation, which has often been the case with more than half of the newlyweds that have invited me. Hence a lot of my current bitterness toward new couples.
But even with this current internal struggle there have already been instances where I didn’t give gifts. Like the casual friend or acquaintance I have talked to since high school. And again a lot of my reasoning is budget-oriented because of my current status. Anyway I’m more than happy to have you to host this discussion with as to hinder myself from more obligations when my plates already full.

And I understand how you feel with that frustration! Especially with friends and family members who you may hold higher expectations. My parents can relate even with smaller celebrations like when I graduated from college. On the bright side in the case if you do have more than expected no shows that’s more cake and hors d’oeuvres for you! And for your cousin a ton of nice evening wear!

I’m very grateful for you and demonstrating all the understand that you’ve actively shown to me here. It’s not everyday when I find someone in person who seems to understand me in this way while also presenting advice from a fresh perspective.