Here is a list of some of the accomodations offered elsewhere which might help with the documentation you need to write:

http://www.bu.edu/cpr/reasaccom/educa-accom.html

Sweetie...could you explain this sentence, "I am thinking in the back of my mind that it would be easier for him to just die."?

I wish I could help more.

I'm so sorry you are going through so much!

emmy