Similar to BethRags in my 20's and early 30's I was with a T for 10 years who I was very strongly attached to. Transference? I don't know. It was painful to be apart from her. I too, benefitted from the therapy, but I wish I could have dealt with the feelings about my therapist so my whole life wasn't about therapy. I don't seem to have the same problem with T now though. In fact when I don't see her for a couple of weeks, it's absolutely fine. I benefit from this therapy too it's just not my whole life.