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Originally Posted by ziggystarlord144
in the past 5-ish days..
He is 18, and I am 17.
Neither of us checked Reddit frequently so we decided Discord would be a better way to communicate.
I didn't trust him at all at first. I was mostly convinced he was just trying to manipulate me into giving him nudes
We started talking almost nonstop.
I still didn't fully trust him, but I was happy to finally have someone to talk to
I did start to get nervous and decided the best way to solve the issue was to talk to him - as in actually hear his voice.
It felt like it was all moving too fast.
We sent each other selfies and continued to talk almost constantly, all day, late into the night.. got really flirty.
I was overwhelmed. I didn't know what to feel.
So, after thinking it over, I messaged him the next morning apologizing for flirting even though I didn't really want to be in a relationship, and made it very clear that we'd be friends from there on out, at least until I got to know him better. And he said he felt the same way.
but I still didn't fully trust him. We kept talking.
He said that most people give off red flags almost right away, but no matter how deep he looked he couldn't find any with me - I was perfect, in his mind. And he just kept talking about what he liked about me.
But at the same time I want to just stop talking to him. I want to stop talking to everyone, and just shut myself in some little dark hole in the attic
But what if I end up losing something that could change my life?
I don't know if I can trust him, but I really, really want to.
And I also can't keep lying to my parents about who I'm talking to or who RL is.. but half of it was lies.
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At this point, he's just an online personality. Be careful on what you say is factual. I've bolded the above. He can tell you anything you want to hear.. it doesn't mean it's true.
Be cautious. A predator will tell you what you want to hear. He will try earn your trust and consume your time until you give too much personal information about yourself (selfies, cell number, location, etc.).
You've repeatedly said you don't trust him but are going against yourself by talking with him anyway. That's how vulnerable victims become targets. They ignore their gut instincts because the other person seems nice and tell you what you want to hear.
What could change your life is something for the worst, so be careful and don't ignore these feelings. If you're feeling hesitant with this guy but are maintaining conversation because he's giving you the attention you like, than I'd call it quits.
You have a very good reason to not trust this guy, simply because, 1) he's an online stranger, 2) you're moving too fast with him 3) your gut has been nagging at you
Having said all that, if he's truthful about his age, you're both young and that's kind of high school life.. to be so absorbed into a new crush. Regardless, you're feeling off about him. Trust it.
Are you able to do a search on this guy?